Hakuna Masquata: its means nice booty, for the rest of your days.

“Dating”

Can you repeat the word? May I have the definition? Its place of origin? Can you sing it in a song?

Being at work, a.k.a the gym, does yes, consume most of my days. No, I don’t mind that at all. I spend roughly 50+ hours here in a week. People joke, as I claim the bathroom counter for 40 minutes at 10:15am every morning in transition from training to work, that I live here- and I almost can’t argue.

As much as the gym is a huge part of my life. It is not me. It does not not define me, its not the only thing I value and it is not something that is a must in an individual. I make time for things that are important to me. I see my friends, I see my family, I play hockey, I train, I do things and go places. I do see outside of these walls, I promise! Not everyone will understand  commitment like this and quite frankly I’m not asking them to. Yes I spend lots of time here but if your are important to me I make time for you as well.

Whenever I start “seeing” or “talking” to someone, call them prospects if you will, one of three scenario’s always come up.

A. Prospect claims I spend “too much” time at the gym or I am obsessed. They think I am selfish and should spend more time than I already do with them. They don’t understand the lifestyle, and complain about it.

B. Prospects think that the gym is the only thing important to you so that is all they talk about. They pretend to be just as interested and it becomes annoying.

C. The gym is the ONLY thing you have in common with the prospect.

one of the above, various combinations, or all of the above = single me

News to the world: When did hobbies or common interests become more important than values??

Don’t get me wrong, if someone already shares the love for fitness and the gym that’s great. If someone shows interest in your interests that’s also great, but If the only thing you have in common is the gym or the only thing people think you like is the gym. As far as I’m concerned, you can fucking kick rocks.  I think ambition for life, a taste for good food and books, a sense of responsibility, a good heart and some conversation, someones morals and values for life and how they want to live it far surpass the attractiveness of being able to dead-lift 3 plates or be lean at all times.

Dating in this day in age is hard enough with social media and technology. People need to stop pretending and forcing things. Your heart is not a toy, stop playing with it. Wait for something real, something you don’t have to question yourself about.

To my readers: Don’t settle. Place your importance in real things. I can only hope that the person you end up with challenges you, respects your hobbies and has their own. Someone who places more importance on shared values rather than common interests.

Values will make or break a relationship, hobbies generally don’t.

thatgymgirl

Regroup.

Maybe your not doing awful, but your not doing your best.

In Hockey, when the play isn’t going as planned, you can’t quite get it to go your way, it’s slips out of your zone for a breif moment, we regroup. We leave the zone completely, take a few seconds to gather ourselves, organize, exhale frustration, compose ourselves and re-enter the zone. It can happen in a matter of 6 seconds but it makes the difference. Sometimes things get scrambled, you get knocked down a bit. Your not losing, your just not doing your best. Hell, maybe even the opponent is just on their game that day. Regroup, remember the game plan, and execute.

Life, a lot like hockey, sometimes needs a regroup.

Don’t forget why you started. Know its OK to run in to obstacles, don’t let frustration derail you from your objective. Do your best and execute.

Regroup.

No game is perfect, and no game worth winning is won with ease.

thatgymgirl.

Anything but an english major.

Bare with me while I adapt to this form of expression…

I’ve always been an athlete or an enthusiast of fitness if you will, never much of a “writer”. In fact, english has always been my worst subject whether its speaking, typing, texting, informal and formal. I can almost promise you its flawed. Other than athletics, I like to think i’m better with numbers, things that have a definite answer or out come. A yes or no answer if you will. On that note I ask that you be kind and take nothing more from my post than its residual value. I am a rookie at this but if there’s one thing I can promise you is that I will be putting my whole heart into my words, even if they don’t make grammatical sense.

None the less, I have come to the conclusion that in the last year of my life has been such a leap of faith,learning curve, period of mind boggling,eye opening, heart breaking, and successful drastic time of growth and development, that I couldn’t not write about it. I have learned so much about myself and can’t even explain how much everything truly has changed.I’m excited to finally write down and share some of my experiences and I have to thank a dear friend for recently starting her own blog and inspiring me to do the same.

A little about me is necessary I suppose..

So I’m 21, a graduate of a local College and currently self employed and I couldn’t be happier with how my life is going. I’m surrounded by lots of good hearted hard working people and I couldn’t be more thankful for that. I play competitive hockey for my municipality, I spend far to much time at the arena and the gym, which is where my business is currently being contracted. Luckily for me I have the pleasure of being at a gym all day and loving what I do even if I am considered a sales person…

Sales; Almost sounds like a dirty word or something you kind of mumble under your breath when people ask you what you do for work. It’s funny because doing sales is never EVER something I could have predicted for myself. Its something that as soon as people hear they have a giant, flashing, bells and whistles, sirens and all the above type red flag go off in their mind. I mean, who can blame them with how sales people are commonly portrayed, and sometimes are, in absolutely everything. Hell, I felt the exact same way when my manager first approached me about the position. Funny it was about this time last year and my instant reaction was HELL NO, no fucking way in hell would I ever be caught dead taking a job like that. I actually think I laughed at him and asked him if he was insane. How could someone make a living I thought? There is zero job security, I have bills, I have responsibilities, I have integrity, I couldn’t be that slimy sales person who cons people and takes their money. It had the largest negative blueprint in my mind, and now I’m laughing just thinking of my reaction in comparison to the last year of my life…

I caught this text the other day from a guy I used to work with during Pre-sale of the new gym I’m currently at..

“Nice to see all your hustling is paying off kiddo.. well earned. Good things come to those that refuse to settle. Going Semi-nuts without a gym here in BC as there is nothing around here. Push-ups, lunges and long runs for now! Impact those around you bud, whatever way you do it in, the way you were meant to. You’ve got a kind soul, give it to the world. I wish you nothing but the best, miss ya kiddo. With any luck I’ll be able to slide a train pass your way in the near future if you’ve decided you’ve earned yourself some travel you can come see this beautiful place. You change lives everyday with what you do, you empower people to love and respect their bodies and their souls. The world isn’t changed on a global scale, it’s changed with every person you are kind to, and they pay that same kindness and compassion forward. Love and kindness are the greatest gifts we can give. will keep in touch.”

I will never be able to thank this man enough as he has taught me exactly how to be as a sales person and how to not let the shadow of the name dim the light that I know is more important. He showed me how to turn my passion for fitness into showing people how it can whole heartedly benefit everyone. I believe that to be so true.

On that note I am not an English major, I am an athlete, an enthusiast of fitness and health and I am also a shameless sales person.

I hope you enjoy my future posts and don’t forget to keep your stick on the ice.