In my en devours, I’m learning just how much truth the quote,”The best things in life are free” really has.
Its funny you know because people are so caught up in things and money, technology and such. We boast about the latest version of this, or ten day trips under the sun, Fast cars, fancy houses – that will never be homes, the material things and the superficial happiness it all brings.
Are you still excited about the hundreds or dollars you’ve dropped on bullshit 5 years after its been used, collected dust and thrown away?
Since when did those things belong in determining happiness?
I’ve been privileged enough to see both sides of the spectrum.
I’ve played all the rep sports you can imagine, had the nice clothes, been more than spoiled rotten, when I was young, had gaming systems, take out food, a cottage, went on small trips got souvenirs. But when I reflect those are also some of THE most miserable years of my life. Because at that point, money was the only important thing to my parents, they thought If they just bought me everything I could have ever wanted I would be happy. If I had more than the neighbour’s kids, I must be happy. Maybe I was, for a short while. But the things I lack are good memories, funny and embarrassing family stories that always get told, get together’s with family and friends, traditions, unbreakable one-of-a-kind relationships that you build with aunts, uncles, cousins, and that one relatives friend who has become family, scar’s from running through the creek or falling out of climbed tree’s. Things that you can’t purchase at Walmart, things that are integral to how you turn out in life. They are the building blocks of your values, your moral blueprint.
It wasn’t until I was 14-15, my parents had taken a turn for the worse and I was out on my own. At the start I was bitter, angry and selfish. But it was also during that time that I had learned my parents didn’t owe me anything, hell they had gotten me this far. I learned, slowly but surely, that not everything in life needed to be bought or could be bought. I learned that It felt way better to have someone love and respect you, be considerate of your feelings and encourage you to be a better person, rather than have someone buy you things and shove it in your face that “they do everything for you”. It also felt better to work and earn things rather than to be given everything.
Since the fuck when did buying people things become more important than honesty, or loyalty, consideration, respect, integrity or being faithful?
Our perspective and priorities in regards to how we interact and involve ourselves with people in this generation is absolutely more than backwards and completely fucked.
When did we stop taking time to just spend time with people? To have a face to face conversation or commit to a weekend or invite your whole family for dinner just because?
When did It become OK to always just send a quick text, or buy someone something to say “im sorry” rather than just not doing it again, or when did it become OK to say terrible things, jeopardize relationships, be-little people, manipulate and hold thing over peoples heads?
Seriously though, when?
Have people forgotten that money really isn’t everything. Sure it helps in life, I can’t deny that, and yes you should treat your damn self – you do work after all! But money doesn’t trump morals, values or fix they way you treat people – and it most definitely does not make you better than anyone or give you the right to be an asshole.
I’m 23 – engaged – house wifing if you will.
I have zero problem with “settling down”, as my friends so loosely call it. I’m happy with that. I’d be more than happy with marriage and a baby by 25-26. I’m ready for that, hell I was ready a year and a half ago, for the life time of full 100% honest commitment, that doesn’t scare me.
I’m not perfect by any means and everyone has their days. But, I’ve done everything in my power since I was a teenager to be a salt-of-the-earth type person, to live honestly, to be grateful for everything I’ve been given and the opportunities that present themselves, to be positive and encouraging. I’ve done my best to keep my network small and full of people who I can trust and count on, I’ve worked hard to ensure that I have a better life, a life that I can be proud of and a life that I’ve earned.
That being said, I have veered from that lately and its time to get back on track. I have no room in my life for the negative. No place here for greed, anger, manipulation, jealousy – I want to work through things, to trust and be trusted, communicate, appreciate, to be counted on, to encourage and be encouraged, be respectful and considerate. I want all the small beautiful things that make me smile. Like when my backyard fills with fire flies late night or when my cattle neighbour’s greet me in the morning.
I want to roll over to the sun on your face and know that we are 100% on the same page. That we are soul mates, best friends, lovers through thick and thin – that we are meant for each other and safe. Today, Tomorrow and Always.