“Dating”
Can you repeat the word? May I have the definition? Its place of origin? Can you sing it in a song?
Being at work, a.k.a the gym, does yes, consume most of my days. No, I don’t mind that at all. I spend roughly 50+ hours here in a week. People joke, as I claim the bathroom counter for 40 minutes at 10:15am every morning in transition from training to work, that I live here- and I almost can’t argue.
As much as the gym is a huge part of my life. It is not me. It does not not define me, its not the only thing I value and it is not something that is a must in an individual. I make time for things that are important to me. I see my friends, I see my family, I play hockey, I train, I do things and go places. I do see outside of these walls, I promise! Not everyone will understand commitment like this and quite frankly I’m not asking them to. Yes I spend lots of time here but if your are important to me I make time for you as well.
Whenever I start “seeing” or “talking” to someone, call them prospects if you will, one of three scenario’s always come up.
A. Prospect claims I spend “too much” time at the gym or I am obsessed. They think I am selfish and should spend more time than I already do with them. They don’t understand the lifestyle, and complain about it.
B. Prospects think that the gym is the only thing important to you so that is all they talk about. They pretend to be just as interested and it becomes annoying.
C. The gym is the ONLY thing you have in common with the prospect.
one of the above, various combinations, or all of the above = single me
News to the world: When did hobbies or common interests become more important than values??
Don’t get me wrong, if someone already shares the love for fitness and the gym that’s great. If someone shows interest in your interests that’s also great, but If the only thing you have in common is the gym or the only thing people think you like is the gym. As far as I’m concerned, you can fucking kick rocks. I think ambition for life, a taste for good food and books, a sense of responsibility, a good heart and some conversation, someones morals and values for life and how they want to live it far surpass the attractiveness of being able to dead-lift 3 plates or be lean at all times.
Dating in this day in age is hard enough with social media and technology. People need to stop pretending and forcing things. Your heart is not a toy, stop playing with it. Wait for something real, something you don’t have to question yourself about.
To my readers: Don’t settle. Place your importance in real things. I can only hope that the person you end up with challenges you, respects your hobbies and has their own. Someone who places more importance on shared values rather than common interests.
Values will make or break a relationship, hobbies generally don’t.
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